I’m coming late to this bonfire

and dang this really has blown up on you. My sincere condolences. I know you’ll find your way through this and that you’ll keep your DMIL safe and sound and protected. I also have a sneaky suspicion that SIL is about to crash and burn. S’mores, anyone? Do what you have to do, with your standard skill and savvy, and you’ll come out on top. I look forward to the eventual email that SIL is D-O-N-E.
Kimberly J. Horn, still fighting her own battles today.